Monday, March 8, 2010


Mindfulness means paying attention in a particular way: On Purpose, in the present moment, and nonjudgmentally."       - Jon Kabat-Zinn

Ahhh, sounds so simple... and on some levels it is.
Yet, I found out that in order to be consistently mindful- to be PRESENT, NOW, HERE- I needed some training.

We are conditioned to want to be anywhere but "here". The mind is like a puppy- if you tell it to sit and stay- in a few seconds it hops up again, chasing its tail or anything else that attracts its attention. We are a culture lost in thought, out-of-body, living in either the past or future. We believe we don't want to be "here" because what is going on here (internally or externally) can feel uncomfortable or boring.
But all this "chasing our thoughts" actually takes us nowhere real.
There is no "there" there.  There is only Here.

Years ago, after too much busy-ness, too much chasing after happiness "out there", I was introduced to Vipassana meditation.    Instantly I felt that I had come Home.
This simple, profound practice helped me return to my body, my senses, and the life right here.

The key is the "on purpose" and "non-judgementally" part. Attitude is everything.
Mindfulness is cultivated by paying attention on purpose, deeply, and without judgment (friendly and inviting) to whatever arises in the present moment, either inside or outside of us. By intentionally practicing mindfulness, deliberately paying more careful moment-to-moment attention, we can live more fully and less on "automatic pilot", thus, being more present for our own lives.
And in that space, where the mind calms down and our senses come awake... we find Insight.
Looking the reality of "what is" in the eyes, in that space, we find wisdom. Not "my" wisdom. "The" wisdom.
And, amazingly, we realize it was right here all along.
As Dorothy found out in The Wizard of Oz, "there is no place like home". Or, put another way,
"there is no place like HERE".

This practice (and I do mean practice!- haven't found any shortcuts :-) has changed the quality of my life. Sure, my puppy mind is still busy and distractable at times. But, through a regular Vipassana meditation practice, I don't stray too far from that calm, clear, compassionate place inside. I have learned strategies to help me in the course of everyday life to return... to pause and come home again.
I call that place "the water table"... just under the busy, noisy surface.
If I stray too far from the water table... my well dries up.

Mindfulness is not about "blissing out". Just the opposite.
It is about waking up. Noticing, feeling, and facing everything that Is... with friendliness, nonreactively.
I find that when I stop clinging to or pushing away "what is"... I relax, and the fight in me disappears. The world appears in full color!
Life is not meant to be a struggle. And the good news is, it doesn't have to be.                                                                                                                                                                                    ~ Beth

It is our mind, and that alone, that chains us or sets us free.
                                                                                              ~Dilgo Khyentse Rinpoche


  1. exactly where I'd like to get to....and I do find myself having to actually "practice" (in the literal sense). Lots of waking up to do--thankfully, we natually do that each morning-- so if we "really" wake up to each new day with a clean slate, a fresh start, a ritual (as Christine says), a cleansing journal (as you do), we might just turn the practice into a practice, an exercise before the to do list.... lots of trying to be instead of doing...lots of conversations with myself and God(on my walks, in the night when I wake)....being honest....freeing....I'm loving that private time...just me and me! HA!learning to enjoy my company! Ha!
    Thanks for sharing...never blogged before, hope this is the way you do it! e

  2. so happy you posted a comment, Eleni.
    I think this spot is a place for all of us to think aloud together... about what stirs us.
    Usually if something is sparked in one, it speaks to another.

    I love pondering aloud! Thank you for joining the conversation...

  3. Mindfulness does take much training....with lots of purpose...
    Today, Mindfulness for me took place this morning..on a Saturday....before I opened my eyes...when the house was still and quiet...when you can hear the birds chirping...when you hear the rain fall on the roof...when you can hear your son begin to stir in the room next door..when yourself breath...and yes...when you can have a conversation with God or yourself. You can hear it all despite the sound of car tires driving by and people starting their Saturday morning routine....and experience the "Here" that Beth talks about. And while it may not last long and the moment moves on to the next and life goes on as always, you wait til the next moment of "Here" that can be experienced............
    Thanks Beth! I have never blogged either but thought I would take the time to think "aloud" in your place of Mindfulness.

  4. How lovely.
    I am struck by this conversation... a shared yearning to feel the aliveness of HERE even in the midst of a culture that tells us we should desire "there" or a "something".
    how radical. how sweet.
    Let's support each other, E and S. Let's remember to hear the rain and sit and write. Let's turn off the noise now and then and listen to here.... as much as we can.
    It is such a joy to have oompany :-)